Baby Stage – Toddler Screaming

My sweet little girl just turned 16 months old.  She is very smart and knows what she wants the problem is, she don’t know how to say it yet.   so instead of saying it she screams at the top of her lungs.  It is a good thing I don’t own fine china, it would be shattered on my dinning room floor.  Our ear drums can attest to that.   I know she must be frustrated.

Have you gone through this stage?  We have and with all stages my advice is to be patient, but while your being patient say the names of items she is pointing at.  Doing this helps in many ways.  It puts a face to the name and she gets to see you saying it.  Listen… I notice she making sounds similar to what she is trying to say.

Have any other advice, we would love to hear it.

 

 

 

Tips for Academic Success

Remember we were talking about acing tests but not turning in homework?  Well I found some tips from Sylvan Learning Center that might help.  Some we had already been doing like setting up goals and getting help early, but there were still others.  See what you think:

 

Work as a family.

Develop the goals together, encourage your child to involve a trusted teacher or friend, but remember the goals are ultimately his. Talk over general ideas – an improved algebra grade, better study habits, making sports editor for the school paper – and help him set priorities, but let him make the final decisions. Setting his own goals increases his motivation and self-sufficiency.

Keep the goals simple, clear, and easy to understand.

For young children, short-term goals are the best because they’re, well, short and result in higher rates of achievement. Daily goals are the best – “What shall we do today in the park?” “What book shall we check out of the library?” Older students in late elementary and middle school can be introduced to longer-term goals. This teaches planning.

Set up helpful routines.

Give your children the consistency of fairly regular routines (weekends and holidays can be breaks). Bedtime, wake-up, study, homework, play, family time–children rely on these routines, and the structure helps them to feel safe, to know what’s expected of them, and to be successful.

Help them organize.

Organized students do better in school. Help them to set up their planners (written or electronic; it doesn’t matter), to keep their notebooks and backpacks neat and orderly, to break up large assignments into smaller ones so they don’t seem overwhelming, to maintain a work space at home that’s actually workable and not a disaster area, and to stick to the goals you’ve set together.

Maintain healthy habits.

Healthy students are better learners. Help your children by monitoring their screen-time (TV, video games, cell phones, etc.), making sure they’re getting enough sleep, insisting on their good eating habits, making sure they’re involved in regular and aerobic exercise, and sticking to those goals and routines you’ve established.

Be a good role model.

Children learn from parents. If they see that you’re organized, focused on what’s important to you and your family, staying healthy, and being true to your values, they’ll pick up some pretty important life lessons. Stay positive and diligent – they’ll test your patience often. When you or your family slips a little, pick yourself up and start over with renewed determination. That’s an important lesson in itself.

Don’t give up.

Academic resolutions are every bit as important – maybe more so – than social or personal ones. Let your children know that you’re serious about these goals and that their school success is as critical to you as it is to them.

Get help early if you need it.

When your children show that they’re having trouble despite your best efforts, get help early. Ask a teacher or guidance counselor for help. Get a tutor. Find a “study buddy” for your child. Just get help now, before the little problem grows into a big one.

 

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Night Terrors at 16 months

All is calm and relaxing when screams so horrible start from my little girl’s room.  We run to her looking for wounds worthy of the blood curdling howl she is giving.  Nothing, no intruder, no wounds, no bruises, no spiders, Nothing.

We try to console her, reason with her, hug her…  All our efforts are met with even louder screams and violent thrashing about.  So I sit, hold her and wait.  2o minutes later the screams stop as abruptly they started.  I wipe my sweet babies tears away and listen to her little baby talk like nothing was wrong.

Sometime passes I kiss her little neck her squishy cheeks and lay her back down and head straight for the internet.

I looked through probably 20 medical sites.  Apparently our daughter just experienced a night terror.  The best info I found was at BabyCenter.com:

How are night terrors different from nightmares?

Nightmares happen during rapid eye movement (REM) or dream sleep. A child who’s had a nightmare is likely to have a fairly clear idea of what scared him, though he probably won’t be able to articulate his fright until he’s about 2. He may also be afraid to fall back asleep, and in the morning, he’ll probably remember that he had a bad dream.

What should I do when my toddler has a night terror?

Of course, your first instinct will be to comfort him, but your efforts will most likely be futile (remember, he’s not really awake and he’s not aware of your presence). You just have to wait it out and make sure he doesn’t hurt himself. Don’t speak to him or try to soothe him, and don’t try to shake or startle him awake or physically restrain him — all of which could lead to more frantic behavior. In 15 to 20 minutes, your child should calm down, curl up, and fall into a deep sleep again.

Is there anything I can do to prevent night terrors?

There are several steps you can take to reduce the chances that your toddler will have night terrors. First, make sure that he’s getting enough sleep, since children who go to bed overtired are more likely to experience these sleep disturbances. To avoid fatigue, extend your toddler’s nap time, let him sleep a little later in the morning, or put him to bed earlier at night. And be sure to schedule plenty of time for calming bedtime rituals, such as a bath, a song, a book, and lots of cuddling.

Since night terrors usually occur during the first part of the night, you could also try gently rousing your toddler after he’s been asleep for an hour or two — about 15 minutes before the typical episode would start. This should alter his sleep pattern enough to head off the night terror at the pass.

Baby girl sleeps about 14 hours a day.  I might try one more nap and waking her up and resetting her sleep.

Have you gone through this with your little one?

Never too early to prepare for college

We have been working with our 15 year old daughter to improve her homework grades.  She all but aces her tests, but hasn’t been turning in her homework, which of course is 30 to 40% of her grade.

We were at our wits end and I was near a panic.  How is she going to be ready for college if I can’t get her to do homework.  So I read all over and apparently this is a common thing.   Apparently, there are lots of other parents wondering why their kids have been completing their home work but not turning it in.  We asked repeatedly but she could never tell us the reasons it wouldn’t get turned in.

So we took the next step and I loaded up all my littler girls and our big girl and went to the high school to talk to the counselor.  She was able to open up to the counselor and said that she is not getting homework done on the day it is due and is uncomfortable turning it in.  She also stated a lot of the other kids are causing distractions; this has frustrated her and I for some time now.

The solution?  The counselor asked her to fill out her planner with all assignments that are due.  For the past two weeks she has done this and picked up all her grades.  Yay!  The counselor was impressed and suggested AP classes the next semester.  This excites me because she will be with other serious students that are working towards college.   Which leads me to my next concern…

Preparing her for college!  She wants to go to the medical field so we need to keep her on track with her grades, but that may be enough.  Should we consider ACT Tutoring already?  Her school recently had ACT practice tests and I wanted to have her participate, but freshman’s weren’t eligible.  We have to wait until she is a sophomore.    Since colleges use those scores for acceptance I don’t think it is ever too early for ACT Tutoring.

How are you preparing your kids for school?  Did you start early?

 

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Teenage Drama Queen

Growing up I dreamed of having a huge family.  Usually my dream family consisted of a bunch of boys eating with their families with  me and Papa Young.  In the dream all was jolly and gay…

Well let’s have Scotty beam Momma back to reality.  We are quite a ways away from the picture I had above in the fact that my kiddos are still young and the other… I have a bunch of girls and one boy.  (wouldn’t trade my girls for the world)

So far my oldest girl is in her teens and let me tell you…  It ain’t no picnic.

I know, I remember not exactly being a peach myself in those years, but things are much different for her.  She has a stable family and both her parents.  Granted we don’t have a lot of money, but we manage to get her the things she needs and wants (within reason.)

Keeping that in mind, how does she manage to find or create misery when there is none.

  • She completes assignments but doesn’t turn them in.  Because of that her grades have dropped so she is on restriction.  That means I have put her laptop on lock down and she can’t play video games.
    • Sunday she asked if she could get on her laptop, I gave her a counter offer: clean under your bed and you can.  Well it is Tuesday morning and that still isn’t done.  There wasn’t that much to clean.  She says “it’s boring.”  Oey!

There are other things I don’t understand.

  • Hygene
    • There are days when I have to beg her to jump in the shower and there are days she jumps in without me asking.  Go figure.
  • Clothing
    • She’d be happy wearing the same thing all week.  So we go rounds for her to wear something clean and something other then a t-shirt and jeans.
  • Rolling here eyes and huffing and puffing, LOL..  My Mom would like that one.
    • She rolls her eyes so much they may just fall out.  It does make me laugh when I think about it.  I would roll my eyes when I was a kid and not even know it.  My Mom’s response “stop rollin’ them eyes or I’ll roll that little head of yours!”
All these things are very minor when I look at the scheme of things.
But the whole doing homework but not turning it in is very strange to me.  When I was a kid and a freshman I remember things being such a blur.  I didn’t understand some of the homework, but didn’t really have someone to ask and I was too intimidated to ask the teachers.  My daughter aces her tests but in order to have a good grade she has to turn in her homework.
Anyway…

I know it will probably get worse before it gets  better.  I also know things could be A LOT worse, but this Drama Queen business is for the birds and no fun at all…

They grow up so fast!  I’ll focus on the good and try to survive the Drama!

Just think only 5 princesses to raise :)

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